Attachmentropic Children

July 22, 2011 at 5:57 am (Attachment Parenting)


  • “photo” = light
  • “tropism” = tendency of an organism to move in response to a stimulus


Photo credit: Wooden Shoe Tulip Farm, Woodburn, OR


I love the image of phototrophic plants, the way they yearn for the sun.  They reach out for it and follow it as it moves throughout the day.  It’s like they know, “Yes!  That is what I need to thrive.” And they can’t help but grow directly towards it.

Aren’t we all nourished by light?  If we want our children to grow, what does the light of our parenting look like?  What can we offer that will help draw our children up to their full strength?

  • Understanding
  • Connection
  • Warmth
  • Love
  • Trust
  • Unconditionality
  • Kindness
  • Respect
  • Belonging
  • Encouragement
  • Appreciation

These elements must permeate our relationships with our kids if they are to thrive, for this is the energy of positive parenting.  Our children are attachmentropic; they yearn for connection, security, and unconditional acceptance.  They reach out for it and respond favorably in its direction.

They know, “Yes!  That is what I need to thrive.”


  1. Kara said,

    I love this post! I am a new mom, and I have studied/worked in Early Childhood Education for 10 years. Even with this strong foundation in what’s best for young children, it can be difficult to ignore all the “advice” out there that counters what I believe. This was a great reminder to me to stand my ground on what I KNOW is most important: our loving bond.

    • Kelly said,

      Thanks, Kara! I agree, it can be so hard to ignore all the counterintuitive parenting advice out there. Have confidence in what you’re doing and know that your decisions are right for YOUR family!

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