“Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order for children to do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Children do better when they feel better.” ~Jane Nelsen
JJ surprised me with his understanding of this concept the other day while he was watching a cartoon. In the show, there was an incident of a bad-guy-skeleton purposefully knocking an ice cream cone out of another bad-guy-skeleton’s hand with a, “Heh, heh, heh.”
JJ’s response: “WHY did he do that?! That wasn’t nice at all! You know what I would do if I was there? I would pick the ice cream cone back up for him, and I would make sure the other guy had one too. Then I would give one to all of the other skeletons. Then they would feel happy and treat each other nicer.”
To a 5-year-old, there’s nothing quite like ice cream to help bad-guy-skeletons feel better so they can do better!